I want Mama.
When A- is sick,
she wants me
Close by.
FOCUS
ONLY ON
ME!!!
Even when a- is
well, she likes to
check in with me
frequently.
.
during classes
with babysitters
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Mama,
I survived,
come too.
will it
reinforce
I can do it.
Will we be
too comfy
Options
Rao Nudge her away:
disappear during
Classes & babysitting
time, come back if the
teacher/sitter thinks it's
necessary
Minimize stress,
wait for her to
let me know when
She's ready
1
Be there in
At the background-
1
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